Now that you know how to stay in touch with your friends from high school, we need to figure out how to move past those reflections you’ve been having. Some of them are good thoughts, but most of them are bad. You’re wondering if you made the right decisions and well, you’re having a lot of what if questions? So, here’s a list of the 3 reflections that you’re having about high school and how to move past them…
1. WHAT IF I HAD GONE TO BANQUET (AKA PROM)?
This one’s a hard one. For those of you that don’t know, I didn’t go to banquet my senior year. I went my junior year and decided that I wouldn’t want to do it again. This is one reflection that I think about the most. I don’t regret not going, but still…one has to wonder what could’ve been. If you’re falling into the same boat, my advice would be to remember the reasons why you chose not to go. Don’t think that because you didn’t go to banquet you missed out on what could’ve been the best day of your life. There are so many more memories to be made and for us, banquet just wasn’t one them.
2. WHAT IF I HAD BEEN A BETTER FRIEND?
I don’t know what it is, but there are just some relationships that I wish I had put more effort into earlier. Some relationships that at the time, I wasn’t willing to invest in. Now that high school is over, that person is no longer in my life and it’s kind of sad. I think we all know that the days leading up to graduation are when we begin to figure out which relationships will go past high school. Some of these relationships were happy to see them go, while others not so much. For this reflection, tell yourself that you made a mistake and that you’ll do better next time. Next time, you’ll live more in the moment. Next time, you won’t take for granted the relationships that you have. Even if they seem fleeting.
3. WHAT IF I HAD BEEN DIFFERENT?
Some of you are wondering if maybe you had been a little bit quieter or a little bit louder, would things have been any different? For better or for worse? When I started high school, I wanted to be loud, funny, and popular. I think I did really well at it, but it was just an act and I quickly realized that it wasn’t me. I’m a lot more introverted and I’m not the type of person who can pull out one-liner jokes from the top of my head. Fortunately, I figured out what was more important and focused on that.
In life, it’s better to be you than to be different. You are so uniquely different and in a sense that makes you popular. When you’re in college, if you want to be loud than be loud or if you want to be quiet than be quiet. As long as you are being true to who you are…I think this reflection deserves to be thrown in a fire pit.
You may or may not have had any of these reflections or what if’s. However, I think it’s important to look back on things.
I think it’s important because it allows you to walk away in comfort knowing that you’ve learned something valuable.
That you’ve learned to grow from it and that because you’ve walked away from it, you no longer ask yourself what if.