Yes, you’ve graduated and you’re finally done with high school!! You’ve already made plans with your friends to stay in touch. However, you can’t help but wonder if you’ll find yourself left out…especially since you’re the one who’s moving out of state for college. Currently, I’m about a month away from boarding a flight to Oregon…a 2 days drive non-stop from my high school pals. Here’s 5 tips to staying in touch with your friends from high school…
1. MAKE PLANS AND FOLLOW THROUGH
I know you’re probably already rolling your eyes, but hear me out. Some of you may not have already done this. But I’m telling you now, you have to make plans to hang out after high school. Even if your plans only go so far as into the summer break, just do it.
As a matter of fact, plans for the summer break immediately following graduation are the most crucial. They’re crucial because you don’t want your friends to grow accustomed to you not being around. Even though you know you’ll be a thousand miles apart during college, you want your friends to miss you. If your friends don’t miss you…what’s the point in staying in touch?
This leads me to my second point, you have to follow through.
If you and your friends make plans to go see a movie, GO SEE A MOVIE.
If you and your friends make plans to go get ice cream, THAN GO GET ICE SCREAM.
It’s the little things. If you can’t follow through with the plans that you’ve made for just the summer, how are you going to be able to make plans for later in college or later in life. You’re not going to stay in touch if you can’t follow through. Don’t let summer break glide by without making plans and following through with your high school friends.
Don’t let your friends go accustomed to you not being around…
2. TEXT, CALL, OR EMAIL
Whatever it is that you and your friends prefer, stick with it. Texting, calling, or emailing are vital to staying in touch with your friends when you’re not able to see them in person. This is another one of those little things that can go a long way. An occasional text, call, or email will show your friends that you value their friendship. When my friend went to Nicaragua over the summer break, I sent her a quick text. It was easy and she was quick to respond back.
However, don’t limit your communications with your friends for just the summer. If you really want to stay in touch, contact your friends on birthdays and holidays. Make sure to tell them whenever you’re coming back in town. It’ll give them a heads up and you’ll be able to make plans to see them.
An occasional text, call, or email will show your friends that you value their friendship.
3. GO VISIT THEM
While you’re in college, it’s probably going to be hard for you to just stop by and see your friends. You’re not in high school anymore. However, what you can do is make plans to go visit them. Just because you’re a thousand miles away doesn’t mean you’ll never see your friends again. A visit in person is just a little reminder to your friends that you still care. Often times while you’re in college, you get so caught up in life that you end up forgetting. You forget what it was like to have that one friend in your life. You’ll forget and so will your friends which is why it’s good to just go and make a visit. Be a reminder to them of what use to be before college.
A visit in person is just a little reminder to your friends that you still care.
4. WAIT TILL THE SUMMER
Some relationships don’t need “cuddling”. Notice how I said “cuddling”. I’m not saying abandon the relationship and forget everything else that I’ve just mentioned. However, time apart can make some relationships stronger.
Obviously, don’t forget to send your friend a birthday text, but if you’re not able to make plans with your friends till the summer…than wait till the summer. There is nothing wrong with not “cuddling” a relationship, sometimes the occasional “hug” will suffice. Wait…and then make your “hug” during the summer.
…if you’re not able to make plans with your friends till the summer…than wait till the summer.
5. DON’T WAIT
Sometimes it’s in your best interest to not wait. College should be exciting and one of the most memorable moments of your life. Don’t dwell on the past. Make new friends. You’re going to make new friends. In fact, you get the chance to move to a new state. You get the chance to do it all over. Yes, it’s a little scary at first and a part of you wants to hang on to what was, but don’t. Sometimes it’s better to not stay in touch and that’s okay…